Old Man Rant

Be warned, I'm going on an "old man rant" today.

I was in my car this morning headed across town to have breakfast with a friend when a song I'd never heard before came on the radio. I usually listen to Christian radio, but for some reason, this morning I was on one of the local stations.

The song was "In My Head" by Jason Derulo.

Right away, I knew this was a song with which I would have an issue. The first two lines are:

Everybody's looking for love. Oh. Oh.Ain't that why you're at this club. Oh. Oh.

And then the bridge:

Just leave with me now, Say the word and we'll go.I'll be your teacher. I'll show you the ropes.You'll see a side of love you've never known.

OK, old man rant time.

THIS ISN'T LOVE!

A one night stand isn't love. And while it may be exciting and new; it isn't even like.

IT'S LUST.

Lust is fleeting. Lust is fantasy. Lust is selfish.

Lust leads to regret.

Love.

Love is eternal. Love is committed. Love is self-less.

Love leads towards unity.

Jason Derulo proves my point in the second verse:

Some dudes know all the right things to say.When it comes down to it, it's just a game.Instead of talking let me demonstrate. Yeah.Get down to business let's skip foreplay.

This guy in the bar is in it for his own pleasure. Sure, he is saying the girl will also find pleasure, but her pleasure isn't his ultimate goal; he's selfish. He just wants to get to "the end;" the place he finds pleasure. Skipping foreplay is in essence saying, "I don't care if you have ultimate fun, as long as I get to where I want to be quickly."

OK, so I've tried to keep it PG-13 here, and maybe my "cleaning up the imagery" is weakening my argument, but please hear me today.

Ladies, don't fall for this guy. He is simply using you.

Gentlemen, don't be this guy. Women are to be honored, to be cherished, to be adored.

Women are not objects!

A real man isn't someone who can walk into a club and walk out with a beautiful woman willing to go home with him for the night.

A real man is one who walks her down the isle, and thirteen years later, twenty years later, fifty years later she is still madly in love with him.

You want to find real love, you have to be willing to commit everything for all eternity. Then, and only then, will you "see a side of love you've never known.